4 Steps to Your Bliss in 2018!
#AmericaNeedsLove : 4 Steps to Your Bliss in 2018
“Your need for acceptance can make you invisible in this world. Don't let anything stand in the way of the light that shines through this form. Risk being seen in all of your glory.”
-Jim Carrey
1. Love Yourself Enough to Be Seen for All You Are
By the time I was in my twenties, reckoning with being different became a hidden crutch. I was always the girl who had an idea and would look at the glass half full. I had my own sense of style, my own sass, and certainly my own perspective on people and the world we live in. As years passed I progressed into my marriage and parenthood, yet no matter how hard I tried, I just didn’t fit the norm. I was always “that girl”, and truthfully, was in pursuit to be like everyone else.
It wasn’t until I was in my forties that the burden of not fitting in began to take its toll on me. I thought, for sure, I was crazier than most. It seemed my only option was to force myself to conform, otherwise I thought I’d be lost in the masses without the possibilities of acceptance in our society.
Finally, one day, the exhaustion of being a carbon copy became insurmountable. I knew, in fact, the struggle was real. It levied me emotionally, physically, and in every way, holistically. To everyone around me I had an incredible job, the best of friends, a happy, healthy family, and was living the “American dream.” It wasn’t that those things weren’t fulfilling or enough to equate to happiness, I just knew I was meant for more.
I didn’t know what “more” looked like. Therefore, as I navigated through the blueprint of my days, I took risks to seek out the shoes that fit me best.
I dedicated myself to exercise and meditation. I joined a woman’s group, met incredible people, was inspired by their stories, and became a leader. I marched on Washington, matriculated in a doctoral program, and told people I loved them out loud. My first website, blog, and brochure, The Patchwork Literacy Alliance was created. I wore my heart on my sleeve, complimenting others on a regular basis. I felt good and began to breathe the beauty this life has to offer. Then, this great big world opened up for me.
My friendships became stronger. I met people who became the bedrock of empowerment and inspiration in my life, leading me to new experiences and ideas. Boundless opportunities to work with and be around those who lived the same essence poured into my life. I became happier than ever and seen for exactly who I am. I am not different, as I imagined. I am unique and so are they.
I tell you this because I believe you, too, are unique, and it is my hope that you allow yourself to be seen for who you are, and let the fear of your conspicuousness sit on the sidelines, for the minute you bid farewell to being like everyone else, the world opens for you.
2. Live with Intention
What is it that excites you? What thing or idea makes you want to suddenly erupt with enthusiasm and glee at the simple thought of it? That is where your soul is at rest. That is your destiny!
This is your mantra, your vibe, the sweet spot inside your being that fulfills your destiny. Do something, anything at all, regardless of what you think others might say that helps you move towards it. Then, do another and another. Pay attention to how incredibly happy you are and how wholesome you feel. You will see only positivity in your days and abundance for goodness and opportunity will present itself. All doubt will cease to exist.
3. Someone Else’s Opinion is Just that, an Opinion
Sure, we all reach out to others for their point of view, and those perspectives are important in disseminating among what is our truth and direction. However, what I learned is, even though it is unintentional, we all provide our opinion based on our experiences and perceptions; we give advice based on fears and obstacles we have for others. We are afraid the people we love will fail or get hurt. That’s okay and with good intentions, but only you know what’s best for you. It is through the mistakes we make and the wisdom we gain because of them that we rise to our greatness.
4. Never Leave a Naysayer in Peril
The truth is anyone who disregards you because of your uniqueness is really struggling with self- identity. So, here’s the 411 on that…it is not a bad thing that they have a hang up with your bliss! It really means they want happiness, also, and your behaviors might be the contrast that is beckoning their own transformation! Wow! So, if you are igniting a metamorphosis within them, and they then find their sweet spot, others will feel their contrast, and the trickle-down effect of trailblazing genius for a happy world unfolds!
It all comes down to self-love. When we love ourselves for who we are, we wear it. This is because we feel good. Hence, we are kind to others. Kindness breeds goodness and goodness evokes happiness beyond any barrier. Therefore, embrace the naysayers in your life! They need you the most!
